Life Coaching Blog – 3 Steps to Finding Balance

October 2014 – ‘The Well’ Kalia Kelmenson

“I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose. ~ Woody Allen

3 Steps to Finding Balance

There is a myth of balance that exists in our culture.  People talk about it, but’s it’s nearly always about trying to find it, often followed by a snicker – balance as the elusive unicorn.  Balance can often be found in small doses.  It’s more about finding your balance sooner when the pendulum of life swings wide, which it always will. First, define what balance feels like for you?  How does it affect your health, your mood, your ability to fully live?  Next, recognize the signs that you are out of balance.  Maybe it’s waking up in the middle of the night worrying, or having less patience. Use those signs as clear guide-posts, letting you know it’s time pay close attention to the commitments you’ve made.  Finally, re-assess those commitments.  What is most important in your life, and how do those commitments reflect that?  Scale back on those that are not high on the priority list, and you’ll feel yourself swinging back into center.

The Power of Positivity

Positivity, often confused with happiness, is a state of mind that allows you to grow, expand your capacities, and transform you life for the better.  Positivity includes joy and amusement, and according to research from Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, a founder in the growing field of Positivity, it also includes gratitude, awe, inspiration and interest, among others.  Cultivating these emotions, according to her book Positivity, allows for better health, and a richer and more expansive experience of life.  Here are 3 suggestions that have been proven to cultivate positive emotions:

Remain open: Throughout your day, let go of the urge to judge situations, and just let yourself experience your life.  Be curious about what happens, and don’t battle the little things.  Prime places for practicing this are sitting in traffic, waiting in line at the grocery store, and trying to go to sleep at night.

Know your Strengths: take some time to get acquainted with your natural strengths, and then use them in your life.  For example, you are a natural organizer, but you’re overwhelmed with what to make for dinner.  Design a meal calendar and plan out meals for a week. Try authentichappiness.com for help learning your strengths.

Get in the habit of being grateful: whether it’s keeping a gratitude journal that you fill our every night, snapping photos of people and moments you are grateful for each day, or saying a blessing before you eat, include consistent rituals of gratitude in your daily life.

Brainstorming tools: Try one to explore balance, positivity, or anything else that inspires you.

FreeMind  is a web based free tool that helps you create mind maps.

Creative whack pack app – get a fresh perspective when you need one.  The card deck is an old favorite, the app is handily portable.

Post-its Grab a stack and some pens, and put one thought on each piece of paper – then arrange them on a blank wall to look for new connections.