Life Coaching Blog Series When you don’t Meet your Goals

“Don’t dwell on what went wrong.  Instead, focus on what to do next.  Spend your energies on moving forward toward finding the answer.” – Denis Waitley

What to do when you don’t meet your goals:

(aka – How to keep going when you feel like you’ve failed.)

We all start off with the best of intentions.  We decide we want to do something, we may even know ‘why’ we want to do it (link to ‘how to change a habit – september 2014).  There’s a lot of energy to ‘make it happen’ in the beginning.  But life can take over.  Old habits start to creep in.  Maybe we don’t get enough sleep, forget our shopping list or our shoes, roadblocks can show up anywhere.  Often, we think of all the ways we failed, and how we are just not meant to be ____ (happy, fit, healthy, fill-in-the-blank).  Before you beat yourself up too bad, here’s the best way to bounce back from a set-back.

  • Recognize what you did right, however small.  Even if it was just having the thought that you wanted to make that change.  Whatever little steps you moved in that direction, celebrate them!
  • Look at what got in the way.  What kept you from taking the action you wanted to take?  How could you arrange things so that obstacle (or other obstacles) won’t get in the way.  Plan for your own success by planning to get around the roadblocks.
  • Consider whether it was the right goal for you.  Maybe you were trying to do too much at once.  If you scaled back the size of your goal, could you have a better chance of meeting it?  There is always room for adding more, so start with something that feels realistic for you.
  • Re-state your goal as specifically as you can, including ways that you can prepare to meet that goal, and ways that you can get around as many obstacles as you can think of.  (link to goal-setting November 2014)

Track Your Progress to Improve your Success:

You may have heard the saying ‘what you measure, you can improve’.  It’s as true with your health and fitness as with anything else.  Surveys taken of individuals who lost significant amounts of weight and kept it off (very important), shows that tracking their own food intake was the most important common denominator among them.  This can be true for keeping track of days exercised, steps taken, water drunk, or any other measure of health behavior that matters to you.  I’ve had clients who create beautiful journals, others who write in their wall calendars, and still others who find apps that they enter their information into every day.  Find your own mode of tracking, just be sure that you do it daily, and hold yourself accountable.

Tracking apps to try:

MyFitnessPal – helps you track food intake

Withings – keep track of a many measure of wellness with this all-in-one app.

Human – A sweet, simple app that let’s you choose what activity to do for 30 minutes every day.

‘The Well’ Kalia Kelmenson –